In 2015, Ken Lay, gave a speech exploring the underlying possible causes of family violence against and women and children (https://www.ourwatch.org.au/resource/ken-lay-address-on-international-day-for-the-elimination-of-violence-against-women/). In it he took up notions of habitual framings of blame and responsibility and the way these play out in gender socialisations of boys and girls in Australia. With this as background, this essay seeks to explore using creative nonfictional devices, of polemics, personal recollection and philosophical and textual analysis, the logics that can inform our understandings of consent and the relation of consent to anger.
The essay argues for two different types of anger as a methodology for understanding why one might struggle to experience rejection, and how this can (problematically) become a justification for ignoring consent practices. The juxtaposition of consent, anger, rejection and being rejected is at the core of the essay’s intervention, with the narrative voice playing on reader assumptions to surprise their expectations in relation to the anecdotal spine of the work.
This essay forms part of a growing series of works, sought across national and international platforms offering accessible, frank and precise logics for thinking through experiential circumstances in a way that offsets, or interrupts, certain ruts and polarisations in the public discourse.