Living family, studying family : exploring the tensions

Whilst the role and value of education is extremely contested, there are some areas of common agreement: that educational experiences and activities give meaning to features of the world other than themselves; that education helps individuals to see the world differently; that it is a fluid process, moving in and out from general to specific; and, that it provides understanding and meaning for the learner and teacher. The dynamics result is reciprocity in relationships between the knowledge and the known and between the subject and the object of the learning. This reciprocity results in significant change. For instance, what is learned changes the individual and thus their relationships, which, in tum, results in new learning and thus new relationships. The reverse is also the case - relationships affect learning. This paper will explore the changes that occur when the learner is studying family studies/relationships education and is simultaneously living them as a mature woman with a family. It will consider the tensions, assumptions and expectations for self as student, partner, worker and community member and the reciprocal links to relationships within the family.